The Identity Perimeter

We build an identity perimeter around us to protect ourselves from Pain and harm by our surrounding environment. Our identity perimeter stacks beliefs, morality, friends and family relationships. We end up conversing in our own language consistent with the identity we have chosen to build. While the identity perimeter brings us several benefits I a […]

The Fear of Freedom

Freedom may be the fastest growing business in the Western World. We are rapidly removing the many constraints historically imposed by the no-longer-at stake necessities of surviving physically and economically and, thereby, of creating centralized strong protection systems such as church, marriage, governments, family, controlled sexuality, morality etc.   As liberating as Freedom may be, […]

Unsettled Matters

We all suffer from unsettled matters: things that hang over our conscience as dings, clouds shadowing our happiness. Unsettled matters include old romances where we are not proud of our role in their end, ungratefulness towards friends and givers, more generally breakups of love, friendship or trust or perceived lack of fairness/morality on our part […]

It’s been so long !

Time passes dwindles away and I let it go as ashes in the wind. It does not matter. They say time is money build things over time time is of the essence and I believed it. In the mirror I look at an old man can it be me? the child that still lies behind? […]

The Bird in Me

A bird catches my eye high up in the sky he feels the wind and so moves its wings goes up to reach the clouds down to near the ground left and right as pleases stalls to better watch I feel the bird in me as I seek to be free and accepts only the […]

About Love

I don’t know how it is possible not to write about love, given its importance in our dreams, aspirations, victories and defeats. I will  offer some unstructured thoughts 1. Love is not a straight line, but it is about managing the turns 2. Love starts as a fire with passion and emotions. As it burns, emotions switch […]

In Awe of Friendship

In a book, the question was asked: “Why wasn’t friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasn’t it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication […]

Owning Our Life

We define ourselves by adopting moral, affective, intellectual, social, political values and behaviors that become ours, that define us. At birth, we have no definition, we are undifferentiated at least in terms of our own consciousness. We are a little bit like stem cells: undifferentiated, capable of taking any direction. We are rapidly enrolled in various systems […]

Jean-Claude Bacri

Jean-Pierre Bacri is remembered as possibly the most talented French actor, scenarist of the past 40 years. He was certainly the most celebrated one in France, and even obtained a rare nomination to the Academy Awards for best international scenario. He died of cancer in January 2021.  I write about him today after watching an […]

Managing highs and lows

We all go through highs and lows our life long. Highs and lows in terms of self-achievements, social interactions, emotions, wealth, love, etc..We all need to deal with the inherent volatility of highs and lows around and within us. Consciously or not, we adopt a certain modus operandi in dealing with these situations. Our choice of attitude […]